Tommy Livingston - High Performance Coach, Counsellor, Speaker

Build
Resilience.
Lead with Insight.

Kia Ora, I’m Tommy.

I help people perform at their best — no matter the arena.

As a performance coach, qualified counsellor and mental health speaker, I work with individuals and teams to break through emotional roadblocks, sharpen their mindset, and operate with confidence under pressure.

Each week, I support a diverse range of people – from CEOs and athletes to creatives and parents – as well as partnering with organisations to elevate leadership, performance, and culture. As a speaker, I deliver talks and workshops on emotional flexibility: the core skill for staying composed and effective when the pressure is on.

I’ve worked with hundreds of people across New Zealand and internationally. If you’re looking to perform at a higher level —professionally or personally — I’d love to connect.

Services

Counselling

Counselling offers a space to untangle your thoughts and better understand your emotions. I practice person centred counselling. We go at your pace, and focus on what feels most important to you.

Coaching

My work centres on performance under pressure: helping leaders, athletes and teams stay sharp, focused, and values-driven in the moments that matter most. Whether it’s boardrooms, newsrooms or sports arenas, I support people to perform at a consistently high level – no matter the intensity or complexity of their environment.

Speaking

I deliver The Emotional Flexibility Workshop to organisations and groups across New Zealand — equipping people with practical tools to better understand their inner world, manage high-pressure situations, and tackle challenges like imposter syndrome with more confidence. This workshop helps people show up as their best selves — whether they’re leading teams, navigating change or simply trying to do life better.

Testimonals

"Working with Tommy as a coach has been transformative both personally and professionally. His coaching has helped me grow beyond a really challenging experience and given me the tools to protect myself as a leader working in tough gigs. Learning to think differently about my emotional response to all manner of situations has been life-changing."

“Working with Tommy has been an absolute game changer for me. Tommy is so incredibly insightful to what support I need and makes me feel safe. He has worked with me through some deeply tough challenges and has helped me better understand my own reactions. I wish I had started working with Tommy earlier!”

"Simply put, he is exceptional. Tommy demonstrates an extraordinary ability to read complex situations and forge authentic connections. But what truly sets Tommy apart goes far beyond his professional expertise. He possesses a rare gift - the ability to connect with people at a profound level while maintaining a lightness of touch that puts everyone at ease. I recommend Tommy without reservation. He's truly one of those rare individuals who makes everyone around him better."

"A senior MP recommended I see Tommy when I decided to step down as Mayor. I really wanted help with the transition from Mayor into my next chapter, but to also help with some of the trauma I experienced in the role. Tommy almost immediately identified the areas we could work on and make progress in a short time. His insight is incredible. After three sessions, I went from exhausted, defeated and somewhat down, to an excited and driven leader ready for my next chapter. I was like a different person in our final session and I am genuinely excited about the future."

"Tommy helped to expand our understanding of empathetic and flexible leadership. Through his skillfully-facilitated workshop, people left feeling confident to bring those learnings and practical insights into their lives and workplaces."

"Tommy has helped me understand how important external processing is and how my emotions impact both my leadership and my personal life. His coaching has made me a more effective leader and a better person at home. I highly recommend him to anyone who wants to grow in both work and life."

“Tommy’s insights on how our emotions affect our performance were great! The team really enjoyed the content and it was a great step in the right direction for us. I highly recommend Tommy!”

Get In Touch

Whether you’re seeking personal support or professional development for your team, I’m here to help.

Build Resilience. Lead with Insight.